The first time someone gets involved in a confrontation that spirals out of their control, their first thought is often “I need to learn how to defend myself.” With that, they will Google, they will read, and then will often end up at the local martial arts club, boxing gym or MMA academy. Convinced that learning how to fight better will solve their issues, they throw themselves into training. They attend class 2-3 nights per week, pay their money, sweat, bleed, cry and feel proud of their efforts. Next time when that bully/abusive boyfriend/drunken idiot at the bar hassles them, they’ll teach him a lesson, right? Maybe.
Very rarely is a far more important question asked; “What could I have done to prevent this from happening in the first place?”